Love Advice: Why are you with him if he is never there in difficult times?
Why are you with him if he is not there in a difficult moment? And why are you with someone who does not need you?
“Yesterday at midnight, the wiring caught fire. This is serious. I complained to the man; I panicked, but he didn’t come. I did everything myself. I want to scream and sulk. I don’t feel sorry for the stove, but because of the attitude, I’m offended. He only asked, “Is everything okay now?” And yes, I generally think, doesn’t he see? That I myself, like a horse, cope with these everyday problems! What should I do? How can we negotiate?”
I want to ask, who should I negotiate with here? That is, the man’s attitude is not visible; do we still need some kind of confirmation? So that he doesn’t come to the hospital when you are on bed rest or to the hardware store when you are buying materials for repairs?
My opinion is that there is no point in spurring a dead horse. By the way, it could have been like that initially, when you bought it.
You need to negotiate with the man who is in a relationship with you, and not just you with him. You need to negotiate when the relationship has a foundation—love (respect, responsibility, understanding, care, acceptance).
What can you build with someone who doesn’t need you? And why are you with someone who doesn’t need you? Why do you settle for crumbs from the table of love and for relationships that don’t suit you?
This is the main question… Not “why is he like this and what to do with him,” but “why am I with him?”
By the way, for what reasons are you with him?
