Love Advice: Want to Hold On? Let Go! Attachment becomes dependent.
Want to hold on? Let go!
The biggest discovery is that you can hold on to something or someone only by letting go. That’s the paradox. The main thing is to do it in your head. To let go for real.
Let something happen regardless of your stubborn desire. Give someone the right to act as they want and consider necessary. Internally accept this and agree. And continue living your life.
Want to hold on? Let go!
Once upon a time I read in Castaneda: “Don’t get attached to anyone or anything.” I couldn’t understand how that was possible. And for what purpose?
It’s so great to have affection. How can you live without it? And only now I realized: this way you can be free.
Very often, attachment becomes dependent. And with it, you lose yourself.
This is about addictions in general: to cigarettes, to alcohol, to games, to people. When you can’t live and breathe without it. That’s why you need to be able to let go of everything. To be your true self.
Give everything the right of free will. Not “so be it!” and “to spite the enemies!” but a calm, confident conviction that with or without what or who you really, really needed, you will still be fine. It is important not to get attached to the result.
Because no one has to agree with you. No matter how bad, stupid, or inappropriate someone’s choice may seem to you, it’s just your assessment.
This is your unwillingness to give another the right to his thoughts, his feelings, and his actions.
You don’t have to be there for that action. But you don’t have to take on the responsibility of changing that thought or explaining how wrong that feeling is.
The only thing you can change is to continue living your life. That’s what you absolutely must do.
