What do men want on a first date? To get to know someone. That’s clear. But what do they want? What do they want for the first meeting? What’s going on in their heads? We’ll tell you.
Don’t fool yourself; he is just as stressed and nervous as you are when the first date is coming up. He is afraid. Afraid that there will be no topic of conversation, and you will all nod at each other in awkward silence and stare into space. He is afraid that the responsibility of making the date a success will fall on his shoulders and that you want him to be a mixture of a perfect gentleman and a hilarious slapstick humorist. He is afraid of being bored and disappointed. He also doesn’t want to be bored or unsettled by extreme peculiarities and waste valuable time. So that he goes home satisfied, he hopes for the following things from your first date:
- Nice conversations and attention
He wants nice conversations; he just wants to get to know you and is happy if he likes what he gets to know. He doesn’t like certain topics, probably just like you, and that is when you talk about your ex, preferably in a positive way. In general, however, the ex is rather undesirable. Even the most embarrassing youthful sins can wait until he knows what he has in you. Instead, every man is happy with a lot of humor. Men want as much undivided attention as possible, so just leave your cell phone in your pocket; nothing will happen to him. - Visual stimuli
He will be very happy if you dress up a bit because he also wants to feel that the woman is trying to attract him. If you use your visual stimuli in a targeted and subtle way, he will have absolutely no problem with that. That doesn’t mean that you should dress up as if you were being honored with a monument on the Walk of Fame. So no evening dress, no sequined rhinestone dress, but a nice outfit, neat with a touch of sexy. - Self-determination
Men like decisive, self-determined women. So feel free to suggest something yourself for the first date. You can find a few suggestions here. If he suggests going for a drink, suggest a bar or a café yourself; if he recommends going to the cinema, suggest a film that you like. This takes the pressure off him of being responsible for everything and possibly choosing things that you don’t like. Instead, he already knows what you like. - Casual women
Men like it when women order drinks and food that they want. They find it more unpleasant when women count the calories in everything and prefer to drink only still water. Because people who constantly count calories are also very controlled and restrained. So go for it! - Direct, understandable statements
The good thing about men is that they often say what they think straightforwardly and straightforwardly. We women sometimes find so much directness overwhelming. But if he wants more, he’ll just tell you. If you notice that you want more, you should somehow make it clear to him. Remember: He doesn’t read between the lines; he only reads what you say or do in black and white. So if you want more, just touch his arm or leg by chance; he’ll understand that. - So it’s not that complicated what men want on a first date. A lot of things overlap. At the end of the day, we all just want to get to know someone we like and share things with. You can read here how you can find out whether he enjoyed the date and whether he was attracted to you.
