7 Mistakes That 99% Of Women Make In 2025
7 Mistakes That 99% of Women Make—There is a myth that people fall in love at first sight and their love lasts forever. However, no one builds houses like that, no one gets a profession like that, and no one recovers like that.
I believe that a woman builds relationships. Do you know why I don’t do couples counseling? Because, as a rule, a man asks to prove that a woman is wrong. And he doesn’t expect anything else from a psychologist. I believe that a man reacts only to a woman. He won’t react that way to a psychologist. I work with women only because I firmly believe that when a woman changes, a man’s attitude towards her changes. In this article, there are 7 of the most common mistakes that I have encountered, 7 MISTAKES THAT 99% OF WOMEN MAKE:
Mistake #1: You read too many moralizing messages
The main mistake in a relationship is too much talking on the part of a woman. And this is not just chatter. This is when, instead of explaining the reason for her sadness, she says, “I’ll explain to you the right way! I know! You don’t know; you’re just… ” She starts her moralizing, for example, in the car, at a time when he can’t even get out of it. And she continues to nag him about an insignificant topic the whole way. Then they come home, eat, go to bed, have sex, and in the morning everything repeats itself.
Mistake #2: You swing from one extreme to another
Women have another common mistake. They constantly fall into extremes: “always available” or “absolutely unavailable”. There are 2 points :
- When a woman is available to her partner for intimacy regardless of his behavior, she loses value both to herself and to her partner.
- When a woman takes the position of a strict leader or “mother” in the family, sexual attraction to her disappears. Because in a man’s head, “mother” and “sex” are two different things. “Mother” is for love, and for sex, you need to look for another woman.
A woman is a combination of a girl and a mother. Together we get a calm, harmonious woman who knows how to be flexible. A mother cannot be flexible because she is constantly worried about something and must be correct. And a girl cannot be flexible simply because she is stupid.
When a woman learns to feel herself, she understands what calm joy is . And she learns to find tools to achieve this state.
Women expect a man to come and do something, and things will be fine. Things won’t be fine. Because the need for love is a basic need. We can only fulfill basic needs on our own. And if a woman can’t satisfy her basic needs on her own, discontent will grow. Although, it would seem, she is doing what is right, and the man is doing what is written in magazines. But she doesn’t feel it. And this is what leads to people breaking up.
Mistake #3: You hit the tiger with a slipper
A woman often tries to convey to a man that he does not correspond to her ideas. She constantly repeats such statements as “You are lazy!” “How much is enough?” “You never make money,” and “When will you make a decision?” And conveying information to him from such a position will ultimately make him a “cat” who will not want to come to her.
I have an allegory where we take a tiger and beat him with a slipper every day. We tell him that he is not strong and not a tiger. I suggest that women say phrases like, “You know, I’m sad,” “You know, I’m very upset because I explained to you how important this is to me, hoping that you will understand me.” In this way, a woman gives a man responsibility for her condition. This is very important . Because all women expect responsibility. He is an absolutely comfortable creature who does not really like extra responsibility. And it is much easier for a representative of the strong half of humanity to make a woman feel comfortable than to answer later for the fact that she is sad.
Mistake #4: You don’t realize what happiness is
I have been working for 15 years, and for a long time I did not understand why girls with completely different statuses, ages, experience and upbringings make the same mistakes. And what did I understand? That the responsibility of parents is enormous. Parents must give their daughter the experience of feeling happiness, by which she will later identify herself in society. For example, I was not taught to feel happiness. And when a girl goes out into life, she does not know what a state of happiness is . She knows a state of fragmentary rewards for good grades, good behavior, or anything else. And so she goes out into life, not knowing what happiness is, and meets a man who says, “I am happiness!” She takes him to her place. 2-3 years pass, and she does not feel happiness.
The main task of parents is to convey to their children what happiness is. And if a woman brings up and cultivates in herself a sense of calm joy, she solves two problems at once.
Mistake #5: You don’t cultivate affection in children
A friend of mine has a daughter who is 3 years old. When she approaches him, she immediately shows affection. By and large, nature shows a model of behavior for a girl. If a woman behaved like this all the time, then a man would have no chance of remaining indifferent . But where does all this disappear with age? Why, when you start communicating with a girl, do you have to wait so long for her to cling to you? When women were children, they did this unconsciously. Why do they need to be taught this again?
This is anxiety. Experience from previous relationships. When a girl has been deceived three times, she begins to think, “What if he doesn’t need this? What if he pushes me away?”
When I cuddle up to him and say a kind word, he will have no choice but to be bad. Our children are the same. First, you must always accept their feelings. If your daughter cries, you must never tell her that she is crying over nothing. You must tell her that you would cry in her place, too. You must empathize . One of the tools is to let the child know that everything is okay with him. You must say, “I am with you in any situation.” And you must stop yourself from moralizing. Many people say, “I am with you in any situation, but listen, when I was your age…” And it begins…
Mistake #6: You don’t let a man speak
A man should learn to talk. When he doesn’t talk, a woman feels unnecessary. The problem is that they make plans alone and don’t discuss them with a woman. If he says, “Today I’m working so that in three years I can buy us a house,” a woman will happily support him. In a man’s eyes, if he lives with her, comes home, and eats soup, it means he loves her. But a woman doesn’t understand this. Women ask, “How do I understand that he barely looks at me, comes home late, and sleeps in another room?” When I ask men this question, they answer, “Well, I’m with her! Everything is fine.” You need to talk to women. You need to say, “I’m tired. Cook me this dish.” And she will be happy.
How do you convey to men that you need this?
The thing is that women see in detail. That is, they put together a big picture from fragments. Men have the ability to perceive the broader picture. When a woman does something and asks a man, “Well, how is it?” an explosion occurs in his head. He worries that if he makes a mistake in his response, it could lead to a scandal.
There is one good game. When your man asks you to do something, for example, asks you where his shirt is or asks you to make tea, you tell him the following: “Three words that are important to me, and I will tell you where your shirt is,” or “5 sweet words, and you will have the best tea in the world.” A man really needs to be trained for some time to constantly say these words to you. Later, he will use this tool on his own.
Mistake #7: You don’t realize your beauty
Why does a woman, when she goes out, stand for hours in front of the mirror and want to look a little better for strangers but does not find time to look good at home for her man? This happens because the woman is worried about public opinion. Her man is already there. It is much more important to her that it is not her husband who will say something wonderful, but a stranger who will tell her husband how beautiful his wife is.
This is not a healthy attitude, and it needs to be eradicated. I believe that being beautiful is a woman’s job for the rest of her life. No matter how old she is. No matter what her job is. You should never let yourself go.
Simple techniques to be happy:
- Think, “What pleasure will I give myself today?”
- Walk 4 kilometers a day. It shouldn’t be “here are 500 meters now, 500 meters later.” You need to walk 4 kilometers at once.
- Drink water! Wash depression out of your body.
- Tell yourself, “I approve of myself!” As often as possible.
- In short, do what you love in the morning. And your day will start off well.
- And here’s another good piece of advice: once a week, do nothing. Nothing at all. No making your bed, no eating yogurt, no going to the gym, etc. This is a very important procedure.
Like many, I went to Tibet to find answers to happiness. I didn’t find them. It was cold, hungry, and scary. I was there for three weeks, and once a week I had the opportunity to ask a sage monk a question. My secret to happiness is that there are no guarantees. The world is unstable. Everything can change at any moment. And if I don’t take the maximum today, I may regret it tomorrow.
