15 Subconscious Things Men Do When They Actually Love The Relationship They’re In

Much of the time, it is hard for men to communicate how they are really feeling. Society, movies and other factors influence them into believing that if you talk about your feelings you are somehow weak- which couldn’t be further from the truth. Unfortunately, it is just how life is. From inception, this is what men are taught. “Don’t cry,” they get told. “If you cry, you are not really a man.” It is totally ridiculous! And because women could not be more opposite than that – talking about their feelings 24/7 – this can lead to serious issues in relationships. Sometimes it can feel impossible to know what men are thinking or feeling because it is so rarely shared. Thankfully, there some signs that you can look out for because we always need new tips or tactics to understand the opposite gender.

The subconscious is a funny thing – sometimes we do things that we don’t even notice. There are certain patterns and behavior that you can watch out for to dive deep into how someone’s thought process is really going down in their minds. Here are 15 things that men do when they are happy in a relationship without even noticing:

15He Smiles – All Of The Time

Well, you would assume that this one is pretty obvious but sometimes it looked past. Women are notorious for making excuses for a man and we can be pretty oblivious, or we can go into denial about the status of our relationships because we don’t want to face the truth. “Well he is probably having a bad day,” or “he is just cranky because he didn’t get any sleep last night.” Again, because the expectation is that a man is going to tell you how he is really feeling, you miss crucial signals that he may not be happy with you anymore. Pay attention to your man and pay attention closely – if his demeanor automatically changes when you walk into a room – and I’m not talking about in a positive way – this should concern you a little bit. Conversely, if he is grinning at even the very thought of you he couldn’t be more happy to be with you.

14He Defends You, No Matter What

A man that feels lucky to have you will do everything in his power to try to protect you. He won’t want anything to happen to you, so he will defend you to anyone and everyone… including his own blood. If he’s unhappy he will start to stop behaving in this manner – why would he be protective of you when he doesn’t really care if your relationship survives or not? Or he could want to try to work on things, however, his thought process is subconsciously getting in the way of being the best boyfriend he can be to you. Misery comes with a lot of resentment and it is probably resentment built up against you – which is usually no one’s fault. Sometimes people just grow apart or get sick of each other. Things happen in life that are out of your control. So if he is not defending your honor you should really sit back and think why he isn’t.

13He Doesn’t Try To Change You Or The Relationship In A Drastic Way

A man that is satisfied won’t want to change his relationship in any way. In fact, he will do everything in his power to keep it as is! Why risk a good thing? He will never be able to get enough of you and growing the courtship into the most amazing thing on planet earth. The only exception to this is if he believes that you two have issues to sort out – such as working on communication or not spending a sufficient amount of quality time together. That is not what I am referring to when I say he wants to change. I’m talking about when he tries to change your mannerisms, your personality or anything about you. Sure, it is great ot be with a guy who wants you to be the best person you can be – but that is vastly different than a guy who wants to morph you into something you’re not. If he does this, he is probably not comfortable with who you are now – which is always a horrible sign and can actually be quite damaging to one’s self-esteem.

12He Is Not Afraid To Be His True, Authentic Self Around You

When a man is happy with you, he won’t feel like he has to walk on eggshells or hide who he is around you. He will be comfortable and relaxed. His body language will be the opposite of tense. He doesn’t hold back, whether he tells you stupid corny jokes that he knows aren’t really funny, or he isn’t afraid to show you his nerdy comic book collection – he will share who he really is inside wholeheartedly because he will feel like he can. He will feel like you will never judge him and that is everything to him. It is difficult to find someone to let your hair down with – metaphorically speaking especially for a guy. Like I said, they aren’t exactly okay with talking about their feelings or sharing their deepest, darkest secrets. Often times, they keep that stuff to themselves, which leads me to my next point:

11He Will Tell You Everything

Okay, maybe not EVERYTHING – I believe some things should be kept private even in a serious relationship. However, if he shares things with you that he doesn’t really share with anyone else, you can be sure that he will want you to stick around. He is an open book, he is comfortable telling you his greatest fears and his dreams. He will let you in completely and hold almost nothing back. If he doesn’t even tell his family the things he is telling you you are golden. No one wants to lose their confidant and the person that they vent to the most, it is truly a special thing. However, if it feels like he is holding back with you and not sharing details about his life, that is a red flag that something is seriously wrong. No one wants to be in a situation where they feel that they have to hide personal things about themselves.

10He Doesn’t Hold Grudges

When you two get into an argument, he will want to move on and let it go. Like I mentioned before when someone doesn’t want to leave a good thing they will do everything in their power to keep things going the way they are. If there is a fight he won’t hold a grudge for an extended period of time. He wouldn’t want to leave you hanging like that or drag on an issue longer than it needs to be. In fact, he will be itching to make up with you and have you in his presence again. True love is like a great big rush and a guy won’t want to stop getting his fix in! However, if he is not forgiving you – usually for the dumbest things – you have a problem on your hands. He may be trying to find excuses to get out of the relationship. He will make sure to keep stuff in his arsenal and unleash the fury whenever he wants.

9The Texting And Calling Will Be Consistent

I get it: people are busy. People work very hard and they work long hours. A lot of the time you are preoccupied during the day when you can’t get to your phone. You have your boss breathing down your neck or you are in the middle of a huge conference call – there isn’t a lot of time for texting or calling your boo. However, I truly believe that you make time for the things that matter to you. if your boyfriend is truly happy he won’t want to go an entire day without talking to you. he will check in at least once to see how your day is going or send you some kind of funny meme that reminded him of you. If he is unhappy most likely he is elated to not have to communicate with you for 8 hours a day. Sorry to break it to you – don’t shoot the messenger! I am just here to spit some knowledge.

8He Doesn’t Make Constant Excuses

He won’t be consistently late because he respects you and your time. He will do his best to remember the house chores and to walk the dog. He will play his part in the relationship and carry his weight. When he is happy, he is happy to help you. In fact, he wants to! A man wants to feel like he can take care of you and make sure that nothing happens to you. He enjoys helping you hang pictures up around the house or assemble furniture – plus it’s an excuse to be close to you! Someone who makes constant excuses about bad habits it is probably because he doesn’t care about how it makes you feel. In fact, he may be not putting in an effort on purpose in order for you to become tired of it and break up with him if he is too afraid to do it himself. I wouldn’t put it past men – seriously!

7If His Behavior Is Bothering You, He Will Change

This goes hand-in-hand about not making excuses. Constant excuses don’t exist in a happy relationship – especially if your guy is doing things he knows will hurt you and is doing nothing to stop it. The dude in the healthy relationship is going to do everything to maintain that bliss and satisfaction and we all know that men hate to argue. However, it is problematic when his behavior doesn’t change after communicating it to him that it is bothering you in some fashion. if something is bothering you, he will be sure to correct it or try his best to stop. Sure, old habits are meant to break but I believe that it is all about the effort of at least trying. However, I believe that some behavior is always going to be unacceptable and you shouldn’t even give someone a chance to change – such as serial cheating or pathological lying. Nope, no sociopaths allowed.

6He Takes Every Opportunity To Show You Off – Everywhere

He is not ashamed to post cute Instagram pictures of the two of you on vacation with a corny caption. He will make it Facebook official as soon as you say yes. He will take every opportunity to show the world that you are his and how awesome you are. There will be no time wasted either, a man that is in love wants his loved ones to know it and embrace you and make you a part of their lives. A man that doesn’t really want to maintain a relationship won’t go out of his way to enmesh you into his world – in fact he will do the opposite. He will ensure that no one meets you or spends any time with you because he doesn’t want to make it harder for himself or anyone else when he says goodbye. Or, he is embarrassed by your behavior thus making him miserable and it makes him more miserable to not be able to bring you around his friends. Never a good situation. If you are being hidden, you should really ask him why it is happening.

5He’s Super Honest And Loves To Open Up To You

He doesn’t try to hide his past girlfriends or skeletons in the closet. He would never want you to feel like you are in the dark about something. He places a high value on the relationship and he takes it seriously and he will ensure that you feel completely comfortable in it. Being honest is probably one of the most respectable qualities a man can possess – there are few and far between honest men out there in today’s day and age. So if you find one, cherish him. Although he is probably not a perfect man and he will make mistakes, being upfront and owning them says a lot about someone’s integrity and character. And I believe that a real man will honor his promises to always be true and faithful to you. Those are two agreements that people share when they decide to get into a relationship with one another.

4He Loves Taking Adventures With You

He will plan spontaneous trips for the two of you to go on together. He will want to establish those unforgettable memories with you that you can look back on as your relationship progresses. He believes that this is a longtime commitment and he has no plans of going anywhere because he – you guessed it – is happy in the relationship! There will be no one else that he wants to go on adventures with than you, you are his travel buddy of choice, always. He will want to be talking to you in five or ten years and have you say, “remember that one time we jumped off of a waterfall in Thailand?” Okay, not all of us may get the opportunity to get to Thailand but you get the point. To him, these moments with you are priceless. If you are in a long-distance relationship and he wants to show you every part of the city or town he lives in, he wants to experience it fully with you and only you, which is truly special

3You Two Will Spend The Holidays Together

Of course, it is true that life gets in the way sometimes and you can’t spend Christmas or New Years’ Eve with your significant other – things happen! If it is a scheduling problem, or one of you can’t fly out to where the other is, or anything of that nature that is totally understandable. Anything out of your control or his control, really. Nothing to be worried about there. However, if the both of you can, in fact, spend the holidays together he won’t find a way out of doing just that. He wouldn’t want it any other way, he loves you! Why wouldn’t you be with him during the most wonderful time of the year (cue Christmas music). You should be a tad concerned if he has no desire to bring you over to his parent’s house for Thanksgiving or finds every excuse in the book to not go to yours.

2He Always Wants To Be Close

I don’t have to tell you that men are physical creatures. When a man is crazy about you it will be pretty difficult to keep his hands off of you and nothing will be lacking in the intimacy department. And if he is not all over you, he will just want to be in close proximity. When you two are talking, he will leave very little to no space between the two of you. He will make sure that he is in close range to kiss you or hold your hand. However, a guy that is miserable when he is around you will do everything he can to stay as physically far away from you as possible. There will be no cuddling and no hand holding. There will be no playful arm around your shoulder. There will be nothing. If this happens, it is a red flag that something is up.

1He Talks About Marriage And The Future

Regardless if you two are contemplating marriage, married, or just looking forward to the future together – you can be sure that he doesn’t want to go anywhere. He will be planning trips six months in advance or telling you how much he jokes about how beautiful you would look in a wedding dress. He wants this happiness to last for the rest of his days and what better feeling is that? A healthy and stable relationship is one of the best things that can ever happen to you, so if you have this just enjoy it and count your blessings. It is almost impossible to find in 2018. Social media and dating apps make it so difficult to find yourself in a committed relationship. We have too many options and our patience level is nonexistent. And in addition, men know this and often times will use this to their advantage. Why stay with one girl when they can go on tinder and find ten more?

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