10 Relationship Mistakes Even the Smartest Women Make
How often have you ended a relationship, beating yourself up for not noticing something in time or wasting time on someone you immediately realized was not right for you? If you look at your last few boyfriends, do your stories have much in common? You can talk all you want about what kind of men are today, but the truth is that women have long been able to control the relationship process themselves.
Perhaps the following 10 tips will help you date smarter next time:
You don’t trust your first impressions
The very first moment when you meet a person gives you many correct emotions from the person because you are not yet emotionally attached to him and look at him as objectively as possible. If he immediately gave you the impression of a womanizer, then it is better to stay away from him until his Don Juan charms have affected you and eclipsed your common sense.
You are not focused enough on your relationship with yourself.
It is said a lot, but it is true: first you must love yourself, so that you can love another, so that this other will love and respect you. When you know your worth, you will not settle for less and worse for yourself. You should not waste your time, energy, and feelings on a person who does not appreciate it and does not reciprocate.
You don’t want to believe that not all dates lead to relationships.
If you expect every new guy to be The One, you’re setting yourself up for inevitable disappointment. Instead, look at it as an opportunity to meet someone new and gain new experiences that will help you better understand who you want in your life.
You are afraid to ask a man serious questions right away
Of course, the first date should be easy and carefree; let it be, but on the 2nd or 3rd date, you should already clarify important issues for yourself. If he says that he just got divorced or that he is not ready for children yet, and your goal is a husband and family, then you can easily find out from him what kind of relationship he is looking for. Be honest with what you want, so as not to waste time and then not reproach yourself for it.
You stay in a relationship that is going nowhere, and it keeps happening.
Those constant texts asking to meet up for a night out when you’ve never actually met. The problem isn’t that you’re having fun; it’s that it’s distracting you from finding a real relationship. If you want to take things to the next level, don’t settle for less.
You don’t set your boundaries
You don’t have to set the rules in a relationship, but you should make it clear what you will and won’t accept. If someone crosses a line, it’s your job to let them know. Don’t make excuses for their bad behavior; that won’t change anything.
You let your imagination blind you.
It kills romance. You just give in to passion, the euphoria of love, and beautiful fantasies that you forget to look at the person properly, see common values, and have an objective perspective.
You don’t meet much.
First dates are non-committal. See point… You don’t need to think that you will only meet a worthy person. But how do you find and recognize him? The more you go on dates, the better you will understand what you need, the easier you will feel and the easier it will be for you to refuse unsuitable people.
You hate men
Stop blaming everything on the fact that there are no more men these days. Stop judging everyone by the few you’ve met or heard about. It’s not fair. There are good guys out there, and you don’t have to treat them as cheaters, womanizers, and jerks.
You live from relationship to relationship
Many women feel that their life is not complete if they are not dating. And thus, they push away potential love. After all, there is nothing more attractive than a happy woman who loves her life and is open to sharing it with someone who deserves to be in it.
