Read this when you’re suffering from betrayal. When the people you love are just awful and leave you heartbroken, here’s what you need to remember: I try to think the best of people. Honestly.
I focus on the good moments; I try to sympathize with their problems; I try to love first and not judge. And of course, I fail, like everyone else.
I have flaws in the size of planets. But I always try to apologize, evaluate myself, and acknowledge my mistakes. After all, that’s what personal development is, right?
But unfortunately, no matter how hard we try to see the best in others, others don’t see the best in us. All we can control is our actions. And no one else’s.
So when your best friend stabs you in the back. When your boyfriend cheats on you. When your parents don’t understand you. When the people you love are just awful and leave you heartbroken, you have to remember this: It’s not your fault, and you don’t deserve it.
No matter what this person tells you, you do not deserve to be treated this way. And you should not spend sleepless nights trying to figure out what you did wrong to deserve such betrayal, to suffer such mental anguish.
People’s actions are their actions. We are responsible for how we behave with others. And the easiest thing is to say, “She provoked me,” “He made me behave so badly.”. No. Everyone has a choice. And the people who broke your heart, too, had a choice. And they just made the wrong choice.
Unfortunately, not everyone dares to apologize for their bad deeds. Most people are even able to justify in their minds any cruelty they have done to you.
In their head, they think it’s your fault. That you were the one who behaved inappropriately. That you were the one who did something stupid. But your reaction is understandable. Please don’t let them make you think otherwise.
Here’s what you need to remember when you’re betrayed by those you trusted most: It’s not your fault. No matter how hard they try to convince you otherwise.
