Relationship Advice: If you haven’t experienced these 7 stages, it’s not real love
This is the first time I’ve read something like this, but I definitely experienced it all ❤ 
If this sounds familiar to you, then it is highly likely that you have love, not passion or just infatuation.
Love is a very mysterious feeling that affects people in the strangest and most unpredictable ways, over thousands of years scientists have been able to identify certain stages of the process of falling in love. There are 7 of them, and if this sounds familiar to you, then it is highly likely that you have love, not passion or just infatuation.
1. Beginning.
It’s when something or someone new begins to take on a whole new meaning in your life. Maybe it’s someone you’ve known for years or someone you just met a few hours ago. Either way, you begin to focus solely on that person.
2. obsessive thinking.
The next stage is when thoughts about a specific person begin to invade your mind. You analyze your conversations; remember what he was wearing or how he smiled. You think about how he would react to this film and what he would say.
Over time, you become obsessed with such thoughts. In fact, when people are in love, they think about the object of their affections 85–100% of the time, and it doesn’t matter what you are doing.
3. Crystallization.
They say that lovers tend to idealize their beloved. But scientists say that the third stage of the development of such feelings is crystallization. This is the creation of a clear image of a person—and not only with their positive qualities but also with their negative qualities. The person becomes a whole and real person in your mind. Although yes, you are favorable to their shortcomings or even find them funny.
4. Desire, hope, and uncertainty.
So you have a complete picture of the person in your head, and now you are struggling with the desire to have a relationship with him. Everything that happens between you has emotional significance: any positive moment and you think he is in love with you too, any negative moment and you are in despair.
At this stage, you are very worried about breaking up (even though you may not have gotten back together yet), and you are determined to overcome any obstacles.
5. Hypomania.
This is a surge of energy when it seems to you that you can hardly eat or sleep. It also manifests itself in a nervous reaction: hyperemia (reddening of the cheeks), trembling (hands shaking from fear or anticipation of a meeting), awkwardness (and corresponding movements), stuttering, sweating, rapid pulse.
6. Jealousy and intense motivation.
You are determined to win your beloved. At the same time, you are irrationally jealous and ready to scare off any potential rival. This period is characterized by the fear of being rejected and an overwhelming feeling of melancholy.
7. Helplessness.
Despite all the determination and intensity of your feelings, in the end it all comes down to helplessness. At first you may become despondent, but as the obsession passes, you begin to wonder why you behaved so unreasonably.
At this stage, you may still want a relationship, but you are beginning to accept that it may not happen. Pragmatism and logic are finally returning to you. It will work out/it won’t work out. Come what may.
