The bitter truth about men. I have wanted to tell you about this for a long time. But out of male solidarity, I kept silent… And recently Natalia, a reader of my blog, sent me a question in the comments: “Mark, if a man wants to be, or seem, masculine too much and this manifests itself through male despotism, how can I convince such a man that he is wrong? It is useless for me to re-educate him, so I have been living alone for 12 years. And everything is fine with my father – there was mutual love. What is wrong? Natalia, to answer this question, I must first tell you the bitter truth about the nature of men. Here it is:
A man is a limiter by nature. Yes, he goes to his goal, but to do so he cuts off everything unnecessary. This is his blessing and curse. Why? The creator of the universe, the absolute, nature, god (call it what you will), wanting to know himself, divided everything into opposites and called them male and female.
He gave the male part the task of knowing, and the female part – to be known. In other words, a man knows the external world, and a woman knows the internal, i.e. only herself. It turns out that the whole world knows a woman and serves her. When a man knows a woman, a third appears – their co-creation (a child.
Since the world is infinite, a man is forced to learn only a narrow part of the world. He chooses some direction and becomes an expert in this area. A specialist in a narrow field. Other people (men and women) pay him for his professionalism, and he brings what he earns to a woman (if he doesn’t bring it, then out of revenge on her for not considering him a man.
So he serves her. The most successful men, earning millions (or billions), understand only their sphere of activity and do not interfere with others. They have built their image of the world and in this little world, they are creators (gods).
This is what we are in, the state of being the creator of our world, which every man is chasing. And every woman should remember this for the rest of her life. Why? Understanding what a man wants most of all and constantly reminding him that he is a god (at least for her), she binds him to herself better than a love spell and at the same time cultivates in him the confidence that he can build his world brick by brick today, which will bring success to both of them.
He needs recognition, and she needs material security for the prosperity of her children. A man, possessing intelligence and logic, gets used to limiting himself and his environment (wife and children) in everything that does not correspond to his beliefs regarding his worldview.
Over time, such a man loses the flexibility of his thinking and creates a miserable world. Being a god in such a world is disgusting to him, but he still wants to be one.
What he wants most is for someone (this someone is a woman, of course) to support him and recognize him as her god.
And a wise woman plays this game with him. If she does it with love and respect, he will forever remain grateful to this woman.
Thus, if he sees a catch in this, he begins to weaken, become jealous, take revenge, and destroy the lives of his loved ones. He no longer needs his own life! A man wants to be recognized in the eyes of a woman and she can give him this recognition. Thus, if, of course, in her family, her mother did not give her a negative experience that all men, when they become successful, leave for young and beautiful mistresses.
If the mother has not instilled fear in her daughter, then the fearless daughter will support her husband. Fear tells the woman: “Let him be weak and useless, but he will always be there. You are afraid of loneliness, so drink it and do not recognize him as a successful man, otherwise he will leave! Fear lies. And as long as people believe it, it grows and turns life into hell.
A man begins to limit a woman in everything: in money, in attention to her, in love and respect, in knowing her, in satisfaction in sex – in all her interests.
He becomes weak and does not respect himself. The bitter truth about men is that we all depend on women’s recognition.
A man needs others to believe in him to believe in himself. This is recognition. The bitter truth about women is that a woman does not want to acknowledge her contribution to the weakening of her man. She does not want to acknowledge him as her creator.
Dear women! Remember your love, your feelings, and how you value it. Where did it go?
Moved to children! And this is a big mistake! The man should come first, and only then the child. This is the key to a happy family life! Strength is in love, and love is unconditional acceptance of another as he is. Love and weakness are women’s weapons and they always achieve their goals.
Even if a man does not know how to love, we must remember that he is designed by nature as a limiter and this is God’s will.
There is no need to re-educate him. Just support him in his plans. No matter how stupid they may seem. Let him reach his abyss on his path.
A man needs to jump into the abyss. Let it happen! When he jumps, you will see his wings spread and he turns into an eagle. This is God’s plan… behind the limitation, there is always the freedom of a new space. P.S. I hope you understood everything, Natalia…
