Relationship Advice: If a man leaves you, behave correctly In 2025
If a man left you, behave correctly.
What you shouldn’t say or do when breaking up. Remember this once and for all, because it is very important.
In breakups we find ourselves, meet our Self, analyze, gain experience and even become different people. Breakups have helped many people start living happily.
In fact, separation is one of the normal processes of life. Honestly! It is not some deadly trick with an unsuccessful outcome, when everyone died and life stopped. It is one of the steps of life, a situation, a path, an adventure, if you like.
So, let me remind you that the world we have is only in our head. If you paint this world in black and gray colors with concentration and enviable regularity, constantly noticing only the terrible, then it will be like that. Because this world was created personally by you and the thoughts in your head. No one will ever be able to make your world any different until you wish it to be so.
With separation, the same song: if you approach the process of banal consumption of people into your other lives adequately and objectively, then the strongest tragedy will not happen. You still remain with arms and legs, face, ears and eyes, abilities, heart and soul. No one stole from you, unless, of course, you are dissolved in a person to such an extent that there is no trace of you left. Then, even more so, separation was inevitable, because a person must be a personality and represent a separate unit. These gluing and dissolutions are a quiet suicide. No one likes to live with leeches.
What is this “I can’t live without him or her”? You are a paralyzed invalid, there is only him left in the world, there are no other people at all and you risk dying without water and medicine ?
Everyone can do everything. It is possible to survive without another person who, in essence, stole your identity and, through mysterious manipulations, brought you to a situation of some kind of impotence without a partner. The Universe gives these separations in order to get yourself out of the cocoon.
The main thing you shouldn’t do when a breakup happens:
Turn off the thought loop and repeat out loud the sacramental phrase: “I was abandoned!”
Firstly, this way you successfully turn into a wimp and a real victim of circumstances. You devalue yourself and, as a result, you become some kind of broom or unnecessary trash that you can just take and throw away.
Stop it!
Adults simply could not move forward together. They did not match. There was no connection. One and the other feel perfectly well that there is no happiness. Only the first takes responsibility and decides to break up, and the other falls into tragic theater and starts to get hysterical.
If everything were sewn up and covered with happiness, where everyone smiles, lives positively and is comfortable and great, then there would not even be any talk of separation.
And secondly: understand the most important thing – separation is always a consequence.
If it happened as if in an instant, like a blow to the head, or the fact of a mistress was revealed , it doesn’t really matter how it looked, this is the result. That is, the reason was much earlier, at the moment when the person fell out of love with you. He stopped feeling this feeling. He stayed close for some time, but he couldn’t drag it out any longer. How a person chose to end the relationship is the work of each person.
It happens that everything was going well at the first stage, then “you were abandoned”. The person did not “abandon” you, but ran away from his fears. He is afraid to go further, so he began to destroy. A normal human instinct. This happens often. Moreover, you cannot write yourself off and destroy yourself with suffering. Such a person is not an adult yet, it is impossible to build something worthwhile and serious with him.
Yes, of course, an adequate and respectful partner will never disappear like ice before the sun’s rays. He will definitely explain, talk. This is how good kind people and those who are emotionally mature know how to break up.
Most often, we suffer precisely because everything is unexpected, terrible and at the wrong moment. But that’s how it happened and there won’t be another moment.
“It’s painful, it’s hard. Especially when the situation is really unclear. But one thing needs to be realized for sure – no self-depreciation, hysterics and proclamations of “I will never get involved with anyone again, I was abandoned, no one needs me, why did I have to do this and so on.”
Taboo!
There are a million cases when love returned a second time. But it did not return from the ceiling to the same people. Most often, this happens when, during the period of life without each other, people have changed and worked on themselves.
But you can’t count on it and hope for it, starting to change out of spite. It doesn’t work that way. Because the swamp of melancholy and hatred will drag you down even more.
Be an adult and be able to accept situations and decisions.
Move on. Everything is fine. No one abandoned you. Circumstances developed in such a way that this particular person for some reason decided that he was better off elsewhere. He has the right. But you were also born for happiness. So it is banal in a completely different place. Inside you, first of all. So find yourself, get to know yourself, fall in love, become real and unique.
Understand that digging into tragedies, finding out why he left, does not make anyone happy. It only steals time, health, makes you go crazy and fall apart like some kind of sickly moth.
You are not here to live your only life begging for pity from others and yourself. Because when you become a victim, you start begging for care, support and everything else.
Take advantage of the moment and learn to be happy even when you are alone, then in the future you will never know what it is like to cry into your pillow, saying “I was abandoned!”
