How to forget your ex: 8 effective steps to get there

You liked it and often still love it, but it is gone and you must now turn the page.

You must mourn the relationship you had with your ex. How can we forget it? 

Whether you are in shock, devastated or angry because he left you or sad about having to end your * relationship , difficult, after a breakup, not to think constantly about his ex. 

Difficult to draw a line under a few weeks , a few months , or a few years of common life.

It is not easy to turn the page while suffering crushes your bowels. It is even hard to imagine your future without him or her. 

You remember with nostalgia and sadness the good times spent together.

You feel guilty by remembering the bad guys, asking yourself, “ What if I did it differently? Could I have prevented the separation? 

Your heart broken, you are in front of a mourning to do: that of this completed relationship .

A special mourning since the other is still alive, and remembers you by social networks on which you can spy on him often.

In a * relationship , no one is immune to a heartache .

It’s a tricky business to start thinking about yourself and stop thinking about your ex .

Wounds of the heart do not heal overnight. The memories, the habits, the small affections prevent forgetting his ex … It is hard to put an end to it.

Often we want to try to win it back, hoping to alleviate our suffering. Sometimes we only have one desire: never to hear about it again.

We have to rebuild ourselves , when our hearts are in pieces and we have often lost confidence in ourselves and in love.

In a married life, we can tend to forget ourselves, whether we have children or not.

Once the breakup is indeed there, you have to learn to become yourself again and to live for yourself and no longer for your couple. 

The only person you need to be good with now is with yourself .

Because after a breakup , there is a sequel … obviously!

It is not so difficult to forget your ex and to get rid of this emotional dependence , at least when you know what measures to take.

How can you forget someone you love? The tips in this article will help you free your mind from your ex’s grip.

Before you can even think about forgetting your ex, you will first have to accept the breakup .

This process is done thanks to the different feelings that overwhelm us just after a break that should not be remembered. 

Here are the 4 essential steps to go through before accepting a break:

  • The shock : immediately after separation, before you can even realize what just happened to you, you may feel really lost and disoriented.
  • Anger : you realize what just happened: yes, it has indeed left you. You are then angry with him, you are angry with him for having let you down, and for abandoning all that you had built together.
  • The doubt : you ask yourself a lot of questions, you want to know who is responsible for what, who is at the origin of this * break-up , how you could have prevented this from happening …
  • Sadness : After the anger is over, you may experience great sadness, which can sometimes be associated with physical conditions such as headaches, stomach aches, or sleep disturbances.

Once you have completed these 4 steps, you can move on to the next which will consist of moving forward.

You will start to look to the future, you will want to get out of it and move on. 

You will be at the acceptance stage and little by little you will begin to reorganize your life in your own way, to change some of your habits and even think about meeting new people .

But to be able to achieve this, here are some tips to take into account in order to make it easier for you to no longer think about your ex and to forget your heartache .

1. Cut the bridges with your ex, switch to radio silent mode

This is, in my opinion, one of the most important aspects.

It is much more complicated to forget your ex if he is always around you or, even worse, to forget him when you see him every day at the office, in transport, on social networks , in college… 

The worst mistake you should absolutely make is to sleep with your ex while the breakup is still recent.

All First , remove the social networks on which you are friends, starting with Facebook.

You also don’t want to see your ex’s “story” on Instagram, Snapchat, etc. 

Imagine seeing him having fun in the evening while you are depressed in your room thinking about him / her. 

This is the kind of situation you should avoid at all costs. Forgetting your ex is also no longer worrying about what he does, or what he will do.

You no longer need to know, because it hurts you and you have to move on.

Ignoring your ex to forget about it is not a bad idea , the radio silence method can also prove to be a good way to recover it, but this is another story entirely.

You will see, it is when you have no more news from your ex that you start to really move forward!

2. Learn from your mistakes so that you don’t repeat them

Today, taking advantage of your mistakes to forget your ex seems like an unattainable concept for you.

At least, as something easy in theory, but impossible to achieve in practice.

We have always heard, all around us, that we must learn from our mistakes, but when it comes to our couple who has just separated, nothing is right.

This in particular because the subject is still far too recent and sensitive and you are on edge.

If you recognize your mistakes now, you feel like you are going to lose the little self-esteem and self-confidence you have left.

So, from there to analyze and understand them…

Only, in reality, this remains a principle that should be remembered throughout your life.

After all, we say that error is human, as long as we do not reproduce it.

Just like understanding the role of rupture, understanding your mistakes is essential for the future. Because, whether it is work, friendship, or love, the experience is invaluable.

However, it is not obtained only by following the instructions.

But also, by observing the consequences of his actions, whether good or bad.

3. Load your schedule to the max

How to succeed in forgetting your ex if you have nothing to do with your day?

To avoid thinking of your ex and isolating yourself, do not hesitate to fill in your schedule . 

In fact, a breakup can sometimes leave you a lot of free time because you used to spend this time with your ex. 

Well, do not sit back, have free time, it is time that you can use for your personal development. 

Have you never had time to devote yourself to your passion? Take advantage!

You are a student and you never dared to go abroad for fear that the long distance relationship would separate you? Problem solved ! Forgetting your ex will be a breeze.

Professional and outdoor activities will do you the greatest good.

Giving yourself deeply into a project is liberating.

When was the last time you did something you liked?

Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do, things like that where you say, “I’ll do it someday.”

Well, now is the perfect time to do it. 

There are hundreds of activities you can do, just turn this free time into free time for yourself .

Volunteer, sometimes helping others is the best way to help yourself . 

Join yoga, sport, invest in anything that can get you out of your old routine and give you a feeling of new life , a feeling of having overcome this situation of breakup in love . 

Give priority to your job for a while!

Now is the time to get started. You change your mind, and the best way is to be busy all day. 

In addition, you can afford to work overtime, and therefore save yourself some money!

In addition, if you get along with your colleagues and the atmosphere is great at work, it’s all the cooler to spend more time there. 

You can chat with them, get to know each other and create a social life that you might not have been able to do as a couple. 

What could be better than a good pint between colleagues after work? Breakfast every morning in the break room?

Schedule meetings in the evenings and at weekends !

A movie with a friend, a dinner with friends, well-watered evenings with complete strangers … Why not? 

No one telling you what to do? Take the opportunity to go somewhere !

Drink afloat, come home super late, stay in your bed on Sunday watching Nazi movies with a hangover.

4. Concentrate on yourself and Be Positive!

Now’s the time, you’re single, no more thinking for two.

Even if it’s difficult to be alone, Taking care of yourself is crucial after a breakup. 

Everyone has their own way of suffering, but make sure your physical and mental health doesn’t suffer too much.

There are so many people like you, all of whom seem to be doing well. 

Forgetting your ex is also opening up to others and to yourself .

What did you like to do before? What makes you happy? Find what you no longer did for lack of time.

Eat! You no longer need to hold onto anything. Level races, buy what you want, eat when you want without having any complaints.

Your diet is up to you and you can finally release the pressure.

Do you like art ? Organize expo outings with your friends. It is a good way to relax and focus on something concrete.

Take drawing lessons, share your book, open a blog dedicated to what you love to do …

  • Read a new book every week: Books are often a source of comfort.
  • Learn a new language: Learning a new language is a new skill that will benefit you for the rest of your life.
  • Follow a sports routine: Start jogging a few times a week. You can alternate with swimming or yoga.
  • End a bad habit: Do you bite your nails or smoke? Try to get rid of some of your bad habits.
  • Listen to new music: Stop listening to music that reminds you of your ex. Discover new artists or musical genres.

Take care of yourself and your self-confidence will come back. You will feel good and it will be super stimulating. 

How can you forget someone you loved?

Enjoy life without this person!

Remember that you have already lived without your ex at some point in life, and just do the same now.

5. Get rid of his stuff and everything that makes you think of him

To help control your thoughts and forget about your ex permanently, but also for your well-being , it is essential to push back all your belongings.

This includes of course his possessions, but also any object that can be a source of memories in common.

Thus, this concerns, as far as possible, all gifts, any joint acquisition, all photographs and videos, but also friends and places to go out in common.

Certainly, there are factors that can greatly complicate this action, such as if you want to forget your ex with whom you work.

In this case, it is obvious that one must remain professional.

Not everyone has to suffer the consequences of your breakup .

If still, it was the circle of friends, then they are also there to support. 

But, at work, to be able to remain serious and credible in the eyes of superiors, you must minimize the repercussions of your separation.

Therefore, maybe you should take advantage of it to take a few days of vacation?

Given the conditions, a little rest and remoteness would not hurt.

This also applies if you have children, a business or an estate together. 

Therefore, it goes without saying that you have responsibilities in common, which require a minimum of attention. 

Even by limiting reminders to your past life, you are not going to ignore your children for that! In any other case, however, it is necessary to act accordingly.

6. Strengthen your friendly and family connections

When you are in a relationship, you have less time to enjoy your friends and family.

Now that you’re single, you have more time to reconnect. 

Having good friends and close family members around you can be a great way to fill the evenings when you are home alone.

Your breakup may be recent and still too painful for you to explain to everyone that it’s really over between you and your ex.

However, it is important that you are not alone .

Choose a close friend or family member to help you overcome your heartache .

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

Your loved ones will be there to help you heal and remind you that there are people who love you.

If you’ve spent several years of your life with your ex, you must be feeling a huge sense of emptiness right now because of his absence.

This feeling of emptiness is linked to what I call your love ecosystem.

The love ecosystem is our tendency to replace all our friendly and family relationships with our love partner.

And little by little, he ends up becoming the only person we hang out with.

It is for this reason that today more than ever, you must strengthen your friendly and family connections by sharing your life again with those around you to gradually replace this loving ecosystem towards a healthier ecosystem for your well-being. .

7. Be open to new friendly and * encounters

Finally, the last step concerns your links created with other individuals.

Because, to be able to let go of your ex who has hurt you, nothing like meeting new people , even if it can be terribly difficult in the beginning.

So, what are the solutions to quickly forget your ex thanks to social relations? And above all, how do you go about it?

At the end of a long-term relationship , it can be scary to find yourself single again.

Your self-confidence may be affected by your ex.

Now is a good time to connect with new people .

Even if your previous relationship didn’t work, it won’t stop you from loving someone else and one day starting a new relationship . 

Do not close your heart to the other people you meet on the way. Whatever happens, it will relieve the pain.

You can start a * site online .

This is ideal if you want to make new contacts without having to meet immediately the person face to face.

The * site allows you to get in touch with people you wouldn’t otherwise come across .

You will also learn to enjoy the company of someone else .

The goal now is to find the right person . Never forget the lessons learned from your previous relationship and do your best to avoid the same types of problems.

Consider each meeting as an opportunity to meet new people .

Establishing contact with other people is crucial for finding happiness and forgetting about past * relationships .

8. Give time to time

After a breakup, the healing process can take a while and this is completely normal.

You are overwhelmed by very strong emotions and these will not disappear overnight.

But it does say that time heals all wounds, doesn’t it?

Certain events remain in our memory for a few months , but they always end up disappearing.

Imagine an event – be it a trip, a party or a relationship – that happened at some point in your life. 

You always have a memory of it, in a way. Then something happens after a few weeks .

You are speaking with someone who was affected by this event.

Perhaps your ex has cheated on you and you only learn it now.

Suddenly, the way you remember that event, the relationship, changes. 

You now have new information about someone or something that changes your perception of the past. You no longer see it as before.

Suddenly your ex takes on a completely different form than before.

Everyday it becomes easier to forget your ex. The contours of your memories fade. It just takes a little time for your brain to adapt.


… Overcoming a breakup and forgetting your ex is not an easy task and is still too often misinterpreted : it is not uncommon not to be taken seriously when a breakup hits us. 

We are all different and we all need a different amount of time to recover from a breakup .

This is the reason why you must also take into account not to ask too much of your circle of acquaintances during your * break-up and not to blame them if they ever end up not taking you seriously.

Also remember that you are important . Even if someone didn’t want you, it doesn’t matter who you are.

You are no worse than someone else.

It is very important that you understand this: you must not be dependent on the will of another.

From now on, you have all the cards in hand to really get out and finally move on in life.

On this I wish you good luck and all the best in love!

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