It’s hard to imagine that any of us have never thought about how to create a truly happy marriage. I know I’ve heard women talk about it all the time, but unfortunately, I’ve rarely heard men discuss it.
Sometimes I look at couples of a certain age walking down the street, holding hands and chatting happily with each other, and I ask myself, “What is their secret?”
You don’t have to have much experience in the love sphere to understand how difficult it is to have a successful marriage these days. I mean, even as an idea, the whole concept of marriage is kind of crazy. You consciously agree that you will be close to only one person for the rest of your life. This fact scares a lot of people, but people decide to take this step and start a family no matter what. And knowing some secrets of a happy marriage, their married life turns out to be happy.
Secrets of a Happy Marriage
My parents have been happily and successfully married for over 30 years, so I have seen it with my own eyes. But why do people so rarely share their secrets of mutual understanding in relationships and not talk about their successful marriage? From the outside, it seems that people in a happy marriage do not have many problems, but this is not true at all. They also have crises and failures, but they know how to wisely overcome them without harming their family.
When you hear people talk about the keys to a successful marriage, it is usually the female half of humanity that is discussing it. This is predictable because women love to share their thoughts and experiences with their girlfriends, and talking about love takes the leading place on their list.
While some women feel more comfortable than men discussing the topic of family and relationships, when it comes to what makes a marriage successful, many men have good advice on the subject too. It is straightforward and understandable to everyone.
One day I decided to interview several successfully married men and find out their secrets of marriage. You will be surprised when you hear these 15 secrets of a happy and successful marriage.
1. Argue to understand, not to win.
When you argue with your partner, the goal is not to win the argument. The goal is to solve the problem. This requires arguments and clear reasons on your part and listening with respect and attention to the other side. It should be mutual.
2. Be strong individuals.
The strongest relationships are those between two strong, happy people who want to be together, not two broken people who rely on each other and hope for happiness. Marriage should not be a cure for an unhappy previous relationship; it should be entered into without the burden of past relationships, with a pure heart and sincere feelings.
3. Creative approach.
Be creative. Use your creativity to find new ways to make your spouse’s life better than she could ever imagine.
Examples: My wife has trouble sleeping because of her job, which requires a lot of mental concentration. I have some old and primitive, for our time, old computer games. So every night before bed, I play these old video games, and she watches me.
The games I choose are so boring that she falls asleep quickly, and her last thoughts are usually about fairies, elves, and similar fantasy characters. Now she falls asleep easily every night.
