Relationship Advice: Your Man Is Your Mirror; He Came Into Your Life For A Reason.
Your man is your mirror; he came into your life for a reason. Understanding a person’s purpose in life makes it easier to love them. For example, my teacher is a teacher, and I’m grateful to him.
Your man is your mirror. It is not without reason that this man came into your life! After all, our whole life is a big school, and the subject of study is one—love. The most important and, sometimes, the most difficult lessons come to us through men, and there is only one specialty: love and self-acceptance.
We can give love to another person only when we have it ourselves. We cannot give to others what we ourselves do not have. Your man is always your mirror; remember this! It only reflects what is in you. Recently, I heard from one woman that I am ready to try only for a worthy man… Do you hear yourself? What is a worthy man?
A man worthy of you is one who has attracted you, continues to attract you, and will continue to do so. The concept of “worthy” is very relative, because everyone deserves their own. You deserve everything that draws you in.
If you find yourself drawn to weak-willed mattresses or mama’s boys, it’s not a bad or good thing; it’s simply a fact. This fact reflects the kind of person you are willing to welcome into your life in the present moment. The man who comes into your life mirrors all your internal problems outward. And you can use this knowledge to look at yourself with new eyes, eyes from the outside.
Let’s look at the most common situations.
If a jealous man comes into your life, you should learn to redirect your sexual energy into creativity, since a jealous man will never appear in the life of a girl who has worked out the issue with her sexuality.
Your man is your mirror. What lesson does a man who gives up his hands carry with him?
When a tyrant enters your life, you must learn to listen to yourself because women who live with them have erased their boundaries and become victims. They feel unhappy, lonely, and abandoned by everyone. “My husband is a tyrant, the weather is bad, and others have joy in life, but I was deprived; apparently, this is my fate, to endure and suffer.
Accordingly, a man either puts a woman in her place with his behavior or teaches this woman to respect herself, restores the structure of her personality, highlights the “victim” program, and teaches her to uphold boundaries and the ability to stand up for herself.
Another man simply cannot teach such a girl to start listening to herself. The victim needs to experience severe pain in order for her to finally want to change something in her life.
If a man—an alcoholic or an addict—comes into your life, there’s a reason for it. And you chose him for something. He was chosen to learn some important lessons.
What does such a man teach?? Imagine the behavior of a woman in such a couple: either she persistently “nags” him, thereby undermining his masculinity, or she adopts the role of a “poor thing” who is the most unlucky in life, to whom everyone owes something.
The husband indulges in alcohol, the finances are limited, and the children behave badly. Complete sadness. Accordingly, such a man teaches her in the first situation—feminity—”signals”” to her that—just as she killed her feminine nature or some important part of herself, so he kills himself with alcohol / drugs and leaves reality; or, in the second situation, he teaches her self-love, respect, and, first of all, for herself, growing up, the ability to take responsibility for her life and for the events that happen in it.
Your man serves as a reflection of yourself. If in your life there is a mama’s boy, a weak-willed, spineless gentleman, then you clearly belong to that category of girls who do not know how to give the reins of power to the hands of the stronger sex. You decide everything yourself, you know everything better than anyone, and you change everyone. You don’t notice, but most often your scandals arise because you want to change a person but never listen to him. And yes, now you will deny it.
Your partner serves as a reflection of yourself. If a man enters your life, fills you with promises, frequents the most popular party spots in the city or planet, speaks beautifully, and you fall in love with his style, his way of living, and his joy in grieving, you may wonder, “Well, when will you calm down, and we will be together and live in harmony?” Answer: never. Such a person entered your life with the message, “Start to value yourself.”
Can you always adapt and why do you like playing by my rules? I have been absent for two months, yet you continue to tolerate me due to the beautiful words I have provided. This place does not value you. If you adapt to me now, even if a worthy man comes into your life who loves you deeply, he will stop appreciating you eventually because you adapt in your head.
We could list many more such relationship scenarios, but let’s start at the beginning of the article. What does it mean—”I will try only for a worthy man”? Any relationship should be tried for yourself, not for someone else, because your development is at stake.
Your man is your mirror. If there is a man in your life, honestly ask yourself, Am I worthy of someone else? And for what qualities can I now win a prince in white on a horse’s back? You understand that the prince will also not be with a girl who has a lot of complexes, cockroaches, and delusions. We must resolve all of these issues. People don’t learn to drive from a Ferrari.
The “shadow part of personality” refers to those aspects of ourselves that we fail to recognize, perceive, or embrace; they exist within us, yet remain hidden from our conscious awareness. Thus, mirrors are direct and reverse.
The quality that irritates you in someone else is also present in yourself. Only you don’t see him; you don’t want to notice him. For example, the husband is lazy, lies on the couch, and does nothing. This only intensifies your feelings of laziness.
You are also lazy, and you really want to lie down and lie on the sofa and look at the ceiling, but you simply cannot allow yourself to do this because, as a child, you were taught to be strong and not to lie around just like that, or you have never done this at all. You live in terrible stress and an endless race—work, home, children, school, cleaning, etc.
What does this mean?? This doesn’t mean that you need to lie down with your husband and abandon everything; just accept, “Yes, somewhere deep down I’m still lazy and even worse than my husband,” and at least sometimes allow this quality to manifest itself: give yourself a rest, just lie down, go for a massage, consciously be lazy, and relax.
Reverse mirror: find a quality that annoys you in a man and see if you have it with the opposite sign? For example, a man is a weakling, which means you are strong, you have taken on a lot, and you need to learn to be weak.
A man is irresponsible, which means you are hyper-responsible; you control everything and cannot relax, trust; a man is a liar—you are fixated on the truth, and you constantly need evidence and confirmation; there is no faith; a man is greedy—you are too stingy, first of all, with yourself, stingy with love, emotions, time… the principle is clear.
Your man is your mirror. When you realize all this in yourself, you, firstly, will accept these qualities, or at least begin to accept them, and secondly, you will simply become above this, realizing that you are something more. When we recognize these qualities in ourselves, then men change, or their behavior stops hurting us.
In general, everything in the world is arranged according to the principle of a mirror.
Our entire environment is our reflection. With the help of other people, you can easily see what is in you. Feeling dissatisfied with your environment or work starts with you. Our attitude towards ourselves coincides with our attitude towards the people around us. And people, in turn, reflect our image of ourselves.
What is inside me is also outside. Our inner world attracts the inner worlds of other people. Therefore, if everyone around you feels bad, everyone is sad or depressed, then the same thing happens inside you. And if you are surrounded by bright, kind, loving people, then you are the same; it’s very simple! Work on yourself; both the world around you and people will change.
I have written all this not to feel like the hero of the occasion, but to demonstrate how a woman can change everything on her own if she so chooses. And even cheating is not a pathology, and gigolos are not taboo. This can assist a woman in self-reflection and ultimately lead her to take action if she so chooses.
You already understand that at the heart of all the lessons that men teach us is a return to our feminine nature. Because most women have such distortions (in fact, these are malicious viral programs passed on to women from generation to generation): or we go into masculine energies, and any man next to such an “Iron Lady” lies down on the sofa, sits on the neck, is inactive, becomes an alcoholic, or begins to wander. Or we are in the position of a victim and sigh about our difficult lot and the man acts as a domestic tyrant or commits vile acts.
Your man is your mirror. In fact, through him, the universe is trying to reason with you. Through all these (and other) types of men, the universe speaks: «Become a woman! Learn to love yourself and start appreciating life, because you didn’t come here to suffer!
You are a woman! Where is the fluidity of water and the acceptance of a man? Where is the flame of passion? Where is the warmth of the hearth? Where is the honor and respect for a man? Where is the wisdom and becoming? Where is the beauty, tenderness, lightness, and joy? Where is Vera? Here, get a man to match you—this is your “trainer for revealing femininity.” Please learn.
But we don’t hear this; we break off the relationship, meet a new man, and then the same thing happens again; it can be even worse, and so on in a vicious circle. I will always be for the fact that change must start with a woman. Everything begins with her, as she is the center of our universe.
Before shifting responsibility to a man, look at yourself; he is only your reflection. The Internet is full of popular pages about how to manipulate a man and get gifts from him. I’m not talking about that. I’m about respect and self-love, about faith and acceptance of a man, about the joy and light of life!
Yes, it’s painful; it’s painful to change yourself, and it’s even more painful to realize that “I” through my settings and virus programs are only ruining my life… But, oddly enough, we need “Pain”. I realized this when I began to grow and develop myself. And pain in relationships is an integral part of two adult partners building relationships and starting a family.
I know many men and women who are unable to tolerate pain. When difficulties arise in a relationship, they find it unbearable and decide to end it. They then “jump” into a new relationship, believing that everything will be different and they won’t have to worry. But that was not the case!
At first, everything goes chocolatey and wonderful (the stage of falling in love), and then invariably there comes a stage of quarrels, grinding, criticism, swearing, and again the same pain comes from which they ran away in the last union. Is it worthwhile to continue in the same direction?
Always ask yourself: What is this situation teaching me? Why did it happen? What do I need to take away for myself? Then you will not receive an outflow of energy but will take away your resource.
So why do we run from pain or believe that it shouldn’t exist? Very often, to continue life, including the life of a family, you need to go through fire, water, and copper pipes; this will harden your relationship and your growth. There is no need to be afraid of this. Any relationship is difficult. And if you start a relationship with the thought that you can finally relax and enjoy yourself, then disappointment will be inevitable.
You need to be prepared for the fact that it will be difficult, but meet these difficulties as a chance to become closer, help each other, and become comrades-in-arms.
A loved one is not someone you can enjoy 100% of the time. A loved one is someone for whom you are ready to overcome difficulties and change. You accept them completely, without any reservations.
