Relationship Advice: Why You Should Wait For That Special Person
Why you should wait for that special person. I once read that love arises between a man and a woman immediately and simultaneously. And I agree with that. Everything that happens out of sync is “all sorts of different things,” but love is unlikely to grow out of it. You might object that you know many couples where at first she loved him very, very much and married him, and then years later the man somehow came to his senses and began to love his wife.
Why you should wait for that special person:
For many years, a man may have been unrequitedly in love with a woman, but at some point, she experienced a sudden awakening and fell in love with him. Allow me to disbelieve it. Rather, I am inclined to think that the other half in this situation has some secondary, perhaps unconscious benefits such as convenience, comfort, confidence in the future, getting rid of the fear of loneliness, etc.
Chemistry, fluids, falling in love—they appear immediately when two people who are capable of making a couple meet. It is not a fact that they will have enough patience, endurance, and acceptance to develop the relationship into love, but God has definitely given them such a chance. There is a sudden instant connection. Both feel, both understand, and both are interested.
If after your first dates you start to have some nonsense like “promised—didn’t call,” “said—didn’t show up,” “received a message—didn’t respond,” “thought about the relationship for a month,” and maybe also “worked hard, didn’t have time for my personal life,” “went to play volleyball with friends, let’s reschedule the meeting,” and so on, don’t build illusions.
This is really nonsense. (Well, just know that I have a less decent synonym in my head that starts with the letter “h.”) “That one” did not happen between you. From this moment on, you will begin to build a difficult and tense relationship with someone who does not particularly need you.
When people feel this chemistry, they both try to take care of each other’s feelings.
Another will not suddenly disappear because he feels how much pain you will feel. Another will not leave your request unanswered because he cares about your attitude and your mood. Another will not insist on an open relationship simply because he cannot think of anyone else but you.
The other will be with you in thought all the time, and you will feel it. You will not worry about whether there is a connection between you because you will constantly receive confirmation of feelings and emotions connected with you. The other will be sincere and open with you, and you will want to be the same.
You know, it seems to me that we get into all sorts of nonsense for only one reason: we don’t have the patience to wait for That One. If in our youth we don’t yet understand ourselves and don’t understand who we need, and that’s why we get experience instead of happiness, then in adulthood, patience, freedom, and inner happiness are much better.
You may ask, What to do with those who did not wait, who at forty, fifty, and sixty years old are still alone? I will answer: There may be different cases. Someone is in a couple with the wrong person and has closed off other options for themselves. Someone has decided that they have had enough and has arranged their life perfectly well alone. Someone believes that “all men (women) …”, and has stopped seeing people as they are. Thus, these people have put on the ” crown of celibacy” themselves.
But there are other people who enjoy life at any age, appreciate every moment and every feeling, love the world and people, love themselves, and believe that out of 7 billion people on Earth, somewhere there lives someone whose image matches the image in their own head. Someone can hear themselves, learn a foreign language out of an unknown impulse, and then find happiness in another country.
Someone writes articles that spread like a virus across the Internet, and thus their person finds them. Someone is engaged in scientific work, and one day at a conference, they meet their destiny. Everyone has their own recipe.
The most important thing is to believe that one is worth waiting for. No, not like that. He is worth living and believing in. Now you know why it is worth waiting for that one!
