Why ruin your relationship through stupidity? By following my short guide, you will understand several mistakes that lead to the breakdown of relationships.
4 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship.
1. Don’t take responsibility for your feelings.
If you do not take responsibility for your feelings and also ignore your partner’s feelings, this is a direct path to ending the relationship. With such behavior, you create an emptiness inside yourself, a black hole that must be filled with physical intimacy, things, or someone’s love or attention.
Responsibility and attention to your feelings are important in love affairs. Neglecting this, you are on the path leading to the loss of intimacy with your partner.
2. You want to fill the void with another person.
Your previous relationship ended, probably not very well. You are upset and feel an unpleasant emptiness inside. You throw yourself into the pool headlong, wanting to get rid of this unpleasant, aching feeling.
You need to prove to yourself in any possible way that you are worthy of love, you are good-looking, and you can conquer any man. And your ex is just an idiot since he lost you.
But you have to understand that after we have ended a failed relationship, we need a break to rethink everything. We need therapy for the heart and soul, and when you immediately dive into the search for a new love, it often ends up the same as the previous one.
You do not need to look for someone to fill your emptiness, someone to make you feel loved, happy, and safe. Think about it; it is not fair to the person you are trying to heal yourself within the first place. You are using them. Being alone for a while can be very beneficial.
3. Incorrect behavior.
Once you meet the right person, you will behave in one of the following two ways:
1. Completely surrender and submit.
You put aside all your wants and needs and focus all your attention on the feelings and needs of the other person. You hope that if you are wonderful enough and sacrifice yourself enough, the other person will give you the love you seek.
You completely ignore your feelings and needs, no matter what the other person does. Neglecting yourself will never earn your partner’s respect. Don’t do it!
2. Demanding that the other person meet your expectations
You slowly but surely become more and more demanding of your man. If he does not meet your expectations, you begin to criticize, blame, punish, scold, threaten, ignore, yell, humiliate, lecture, and argue endlessly.
Your task is to gain control over such behavior to make the other person completely abandon themselves and focus only on filling your voids and needs. You want to be loved, approved, and given maximum attention. A man should fulfill all your desires and be devoted, but he is not a dog. Your man is a person, and to behave like this is disrespectful and selfish. This way he will say goodbye to you; only his heels will sparkle.
4. Being a victim
As your relationship starts to deteriorate, you increasingly come to the idea that it is better to act like a victim of your partner’s bad behavior. This only leads to more quarrels and the emergence of detachment and distance in the relationship. The partner begins to lose interest in you; victims are not interesting to anyone.
The lack of passion, ease, and fun makes your relationship boring, stale, and lifeless.
In any discussions, try to stick to your opinion; do not bend under the man. You should have your point of view; this arouses interest and respect in the eyes of a man. In the end, this is a kind of competition between you, and this is better than just giving in and becoming a victim in his eyes.
