Good women are ridden. Every woman should read!!! Being a good woman is very, very bad. Because you can’t try to please everyone and still have adequate self-esteem. The Cinderella syndrome has never brought anyone into the arms of a handsome prince, but it has turned many into workhorses. Because good women are ridden.
And women think, Am I carrying well enough? Horrible, isn’t it? If you are a bad woman, then show this article to a good one. And if you are a good woman, then do this:
Stop guessing other people’s desires
I bet you’re even proud of this skill of yours. Your inner Chip and Dale always rush to help before they’re even asked. But, you see, nothing terrible will happen to your loved ones if they have to open their mouths once and voice what they need from you, my dear. That’s the first thing.
And secondly, haven’t you noticed that some people no longer perceive your actions as a favor? You already owe everyone around you. And it’s going to get worse. Thank you if they don’t spit in your face for not bringing you your slippers on time.
Learn to fulfill your desires. For starters, you can at least write them down. It’s very sobering. When you get tired of staring at a blank sheet of paper for half an hour, you’ll realize how long it’s been since you thought about what you want. The first step, consider it done.
Start praising yourself
Out loud. Loudly and with expression. Don’t be shy. Also, get yourself a nice notebook, and before going to bed, write an essay, “5 points about why Mashenka is great today.” Because you’re not great yet. You’re a drug addict yet.
You are dependent on other people’s opinions; without praise from strangers, your life is empty and meaningless. Unfortunately, you can’t just stop being dependent on the approval of others. But you can dilute the assessments of others with your own.
It helps. After a while, you will notice that your own opinion has been cured of its dumbness and is bleating something thinly. Mimimi, look how pretty it is!
Treat yourself to a holiday of disobedience.
Turning on a sentimental melodrama and gorging yourself on simple carbohydrates at night is not a celebration of disobedience. Although you will give yourself a ta-ta-ta for that. The problem with any good woman is that she tries to be obedient in the literal sense. Like a child.
Good women do a general cleaning on Friday evening because their mother-in-law is coming to visit on Saturday morning. And if she sees a mess, she will punish you.
Good women do think that way, simply because it’s a deep-seated firmware from their barefoot childhood. It’s not that easy to pull it out of yourself, so you have to act carefully.
Choose something that irritates you, but you have to do it—and don’t do it. Don’t go to the parent-teacher meeting, for example. This week. Next week, don’t do something else. And the sky won’t fall to the ground; you’ll see for yourself.
Stop making excuses
The biggest problem of a good woman is the inability to say “No”. A good woman cannot refuse anyone. The advice “Learn to refuse” is advice from the series “Mice, become hedgehogs”.
You need to figure out why you can’t say that “No”. Because after you refuse, you start nagging yourself: what if the person is offended? Was I right? Or maybe I should have…?
You endlessly replay the situation after the fact, get nervous, worry, and have an endless internal monologue on the topic of “I did it this way because.” This eats up so much energy that the next time you automatically say “yes” to people. Just so you don’t start this autocannibalism session again.
What to do with this? Catch yourself red-handed and switch; otherwise, alas, there is no other way. If you feel that you are again looking for excuses for yourself, distract yourself immediately. Any way you like.
Call your friend, chat about something, hang out on the Internet, or read a book. Nip the monologue in the bud. It will get easier each time. And then you will learn to refuse because it turns out that it is not scary at all.
Get involved in the conflict.
Look, you’re almost a bad woman; the most important thing is left: conflict. A good woman fears conflict like the devil fears incense. Because how can you offend anyone? Better to let her be offended, yes.
And then a good woman wonders why, at thirty-five, her nervous system is crumbling like a house of cards.
In short, you have to have a huge fight with someone. You think you can’t? You don’t have to do it with your loved ones. You don’t have to provoke a conflict. The provocateur will find you. They always find you.
They have a nose for good women. And then all you have to do is fall for that very provocation. Don’t apologize and hide in the fog, as usual, but open your mouth and… Well, you’ll figure it out as the play goes on. That’s all. You’re a bad woman. Three cheers, comrades!
