Relationship Advice: Give The Initiative To The Man!
In a relationship between a man and a woman, the main initiative belongs to the man! Period. It is the man who, upon seeing a woman, approaches her. It is the man who speaks first. It is the man who chooses his life partner. It is he who passionately seeks his woman and then enjoys the victory.
Do you think that this is completely out of sync with modern reality? Do you think that the world has changed in such a way that gender equality is practically everywhere? That the Defense Ministers of the world’s leading countries are women? That it is easier for women to do business because of their emotional competence? Equality can concern absolutely any sphere of life, except for the relationship between a man and a woman. For truly correct and harmonious relationships, there is only one scenario.
A man conquers his beloved woman.
Nowadays, everyone is taught how to seduce men. How to show him that you are not indifferent to him and how to attract, captivate, retain, intrigue, etc. Yes, all these strategies can work. Sometimes they even work. But the trouble is that such relationships will most often be fractured. That is, they will either be emotionally unstable, or over time there will be no s+x in them.
You don’t have to take my word for it; just look around and see the couples around you. What do modern women complain about most often? About men’s lack of initiative? About emotional coldness. About the fact that women have to take on men’s roles.
But how did this relationship begin?
I am not a theorist; I am a practitioner. And before conveying all theories to readers and listeners, I test them on myself and the people around me. Without exception, all unhappy couples are couples in which the woman takes the leading role, and from the very beginning. Why? Because certain men like a certain type of woman.
And if a man doesn’t approach you personally, doesn’t personally pursue you, doesn’t personally seek a meeting with you, then it’s all very simple: “You’re not his type!” By starting an attack on this man, you automatically take on the role of an aggressor. You automatically start hunting. And if a man has problems with self-confidence and his self-esteem is not high, he will simply get used to you.
AND THAT’S IT!!!!
This is not his conscious choice. This is not LOVE! Not a desire coming from within. This is a habit.
And you are not the beloved woman, but a consolation prize. He is not mature and cannot decide to be in love with the woman he likes.
But when a man loves you!!! Oh!!! Then everything is different. He plans dates, meetings, life together, and travel. He cares about you. He wants you madly. He calls and thinks up how to please you and give you pleasure.
And there is no need to say that men are very modest now and are not capable of initiative. I have seen how the most shy men began to simply talk about nothing with a woman they liked. I think you understand this yourself.
Look how straightforward it is for you to communicate with a man you don’t like, but he likes you. You don’t automatically have stupid conversations with him; you don’t stalk him on Facebook or VKontakte; you don’t write him letters or text messages. You easily and simply refuse to communicate with him in favor of meeting with a friend. And in general, you don’t put him in the center of the universe.
But what happens to a person you really like who is dear to you? You become an inventive hunter. You start to think up ways to be closer to him, either in a refined or rude way, depending on your level. You are content with meetings when it is convenient for Him. You play at Love. At Acceptance. Understanding the inner world of a man and his problems.
But you are not a man’s psychotherapist, and you are not his mother.
Your role is the beloved Woman! The woman for whom a man is ready to perform feats in the literal and figurative sense. The woman with whom he is not bored, and whom he madly wants. Now the most important and main question: “How to become the beloved Woman for the Man of your dreams?” First of all, right now, honestly answer yourself the question, “Is this the best period in our relationship?”
Are you together only because you are a convenient, understanding woman for him? If you see that you have to make an effort to interest your loved one, just stop. Stop and start observing. If you are dear to this particular man, then he will show up! And if not? What if you stop taking the initiative and he disappears? Painful! Hard! Scary! But…… Next!
I am sure that it is possible to form happy and harmonious relationships, preserving love, passion, and mutual interest. And this is only one way—the correct distribution of roles.
Your task is to shine!
Stay attractive, bright, and happy. That’s all you need to do. No heart-to-heart talks, no clarifying the status of your relationship, plans for the future, and complaints. You fill your life to the brim. And when a man wants to fit into it, you make this time as happy and fulfilling as possible. How?
Allowing a man to open up, appreciating how he tries for you, enjoying his expression, without criticizing or deciding anything for him. And one more important rule. Better less than more. This means that it is better to leave a little earlier than to drag out the conversation. It is better to end the conversation first and leave the man emotionally hungry than to let him get bored and leave you.
I have long noted that behind a strong emotional infatuation with a man or the results of children, there is a woman’s general dissatisfaction with her personal and life results. I have prepared a well-known coaching tool, the Wheel of Life Balance, especially for women. Give yourself 30 minutes to your beloved self. And review your life.
I have conditionally defined the main sectors of a woman’s life, specifically not including relationships with a man. Your task is quite simple. Describe each sector, asking yourself the question:
What do I want from… (sector name) ideally?
Then determine the point where you are right now. And then make a plan of action to move from today’s situation to the desired one. Take a friend as an assistant or create a women’s circle; support each other.
Start living a full life, and then the man of your dreams will pay attention to you, and you, shining, will enjoy his presence and your full life. Ur main task, as a women, is to change the destructive male role and let love and happy harmonious relationships into your life.
