Love Advice: Stop making excuses for relationships that are already dead.
Stop making excuses for a relationship that is already dead. You’ve been told this before and you’ll be told it again. To get the love you want, you have to face the facts. You deserve to be loved with the same passion, tenderness, and dedication that you love with.
You deserve the love you give to another. If you are not receiving that love, if you feel like your relationship is one-sided, it is time to rethink everything.
It’s happened to everyone. And there’s nothing to be ashamed of, although sometimes we feel awkward admitting that we have stronger feelings for someone than they have for us. It hurts a little, although sometimes the prospect of leaving that person hurts more.
Why?
Because we are used to the thought of him, of the future with him, which we see very vividly in our heads: when his eyes open and he realizes that you are his destiny.
But it is time to rethink your situation.
The potential you see in this person is not reality.
The truth is, no matter how much potential we see in someone, no matter how many hints and signs they give us about what they can be, what we imagine about how good things can be are just our thoughts.
Yes, yes, just a fantasy. A picture we want to see.
We confuse ourselves, we allow fantasy to influence our consciousness, distorting reality, what is actually happening.
Real life shows you again and again how things really are. Real life doesn’t lie, the truth is right before your eyes.
More than likely, this person knows that he has an ace up his sleeve in the form of your love.
We’ve all been in a situation where someone liked us more than we liked them. The attention was flattering. Maybe for a while you even tried to convince yourself that you liked them, but it turned out not to be true. And you knew you had influence over this person.
In a one-sided relationship, the person who has fewer feelings is well aware that the other person is more attached to him. Are you okay with that?
It’s leading nowhere, but you refuse to admit it.
If you had a friend who didn’t treat you like a real friend, would you be okay with that? What’s the point of having a friend like that?
The same goes for relationships. But since there are so many more emotions involved, it’s harder to be objective about love.
We become much more attached than in friendship. But the moral is the same. Relationships should bring happiness, closeness, openness, the ability to be vulnerable. It is when two people enjoy each other and have a special chemistry to be together and grow as a couple.
If one of them stops developing and stands still, why would the other continue the relationship? Especially if it is clear that the other person does not want to change?
But we are blinded by emotions. It is easy for friends to say: “Leave him! He is a bad influence on you. You deserve better.” Because they look at the situation objectively.
To get the love you want, you have to face the facts.
It’s hard, no one said it would be easy. But if you want to give yourself a chance to find love as beautiful as the one you dream of, then you have to let go of any fantasy you’re currently holding on to. You have to stop holding on to the other person’s potential, to how they might change, and love yourself the way you love them.
You have so much love to give, and you know you deserve someone to love you back.
Your quality of life and self-esteem will improve if you choose to respect yourself rather than cling to a fantasy. You will be much stronger when you start making decisions based on what you truly want. You may think you want this person, but what you really want is the same love you give.
You project your fantasies onto the person next to you, but you don’t want him, you want mutual love.
True love is not difficult. It is not what you feel now. When you meet someone who loves you back, you will understand.
Stop making excuses for relationships that are already dead. It’s time to learn how to walk away to create a better life for yourself. It’s time to start loving and respecting yourself more than you do now.
