Love Advice: He Just Doesn’t Like You: The Whole Truth About Men
He Just Doesn’t Like You: The Truth About Men. A List of Excuses Every Woman Who Hopes to Be Happy Should Avoid. A man might say: “ I’m incredibly busy at work; I recently went through a breakup in a serious relationship, which was a big blow to me; my parents’ divorce left an indelible mark on my soul and brought a lot of new troubles; now I need to focus on my career.”
It’s easier for us to jump out of a window than to say, “You’re not right for me.” Stop making excuses for us, our actions speak for themselves; we just don’t like you.
1. He doesn’t like you that much if he doesn’t ask you out on a date.
Because if he likes you, he will make an appointment with you.
- Excuse: “Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin our friendship .” I hate to tell you this, but this excuse doesn’t hold up. And please don’t tell me he’s just “afraid.” The only thing he’s afraid of is admitting that he’s not attracted to you at all.
- Excuse: “He’s probably hesitant to make the first move .” You can hint to a man that you like him, but you shouldn’t help him ask you out. A smile and a playful wink will do just fine.
- Excuse: “Maybe he doesn’t want to rush things .” If a man likes you, but there are deeply personal reasons why he doesn’t want to rush things, he will tell you immediately. He won’t leave you in the dark, because he needs to be sure that you won’t get disappointed and disappear from his life.
- Excuse: “But he gave me his number .” Don’t let him use cheap tricks to get you to ask him out. If a man is interested in you, he will take care of all the hassle.
- Excuse: “Maybe he forgot about me .” Rest assured, you impressed him. Now leave it at that. If he likes you, he will remember you even after a tsunami, a flood, or the national football team’s defeat in another match.
Remember:
- Any excuse means that he is not very interested in you. Men are not afraid to “ruin the friendship”.
- Don’t fall for his tricks and don’t ask him out. If he likes you, he’ll ask you out himself.
- If you can find him, he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
- “Hey, let’s meet at such and such a party/at such and such a bar/at a friend’s house” is not an invitation to go on a date.
- You are good enough to be asked out on a date.
2. He doesn’t like you that much if he doesn’t call you
Men know how to use a telephone.
Excuse: “But he’s on the road so much .” Take note: A man who’s interested in you wants to spend time with you.
Excuse: “But his mind is on other things .” The most important question here is: “Is it normal for a man to forget to call me?” My answer is: “No.” He should never forget that he promised to call you. Aren’t you waiting for a guy who would rather forget about everything that happened in his life than forget about you?
Excuse: “He’s not saying what he thinks .” Here’s the problem: At the end of a date or a phone call, many men will tell you what they think you want to hear. They figure it’s better than nothing. So if the guy you’re dating doesn’t call you despite all his promises, why should you stick with him? You want a man who can at least keep his word.
Excuse: “But he’s really busy .” The word “busy” is complete nonsense, usually used by asses. The word “busy” can destroy any relationship in one go. Being extremely “busy” may seem like a convincing excuse, but in reality, it always means a man who wasn’t interested in calling you.
Remember:
- If he doesn’t call you, it means he doesn’t think about you.
- If he makes promises and then lets you down on small things, rest assured that the same thing will happen when it comes to more serious things.
- You shouldn’t build a relationship with someone who can’t keep their word.
- If he is unwilling to make the slightest effort to calm you down and smooth out the brewing conflicts in your relationship, then he simply does not respect your feelings and needs.
- You deserve to get a damn call.
3. He doesn’t like you that much if he doesn’t acknowledge the fact that you’re dating.
Spending time together does not mean dating.
Excuse: “He just went through a bad breakup .” Beware of the word “friend.” It’s often used by men or women who are in love with these men to justify their most scumbag behavior.
Excuse: “But we’re dating .” Men, like women, want to feel safe and secure when they see a relationship getting serious. One common way to do this is to claim your loved one. A man who’s really into you will want you to be his only. What’s wrong with that?
Excuse: “It’s better than nothing .” Let me remind you: you want a man who wants you, calls you regularly, and makes you feel like the sexiest, most desirable woman in the world. A relationship where you see a man every two weeks or once a month without feeling any love or affection from him may last a day, a week, or a month. But can it last a lifetime?
Remember:
- Men talk about their feelings even if you refuse to listen or don’t believe their confessions. “I’m not ready for a serious relationship” means “I’m not ready for a serious relationship with you.”
- “Better than nothing” shouldn’t be enough for you.
- If you’re not sure what’s going on in your relationship, it’s okay to slow down and ask him a few questions.
- There’s one guy out there who’s going to want to tell everyone that he’s your boyfriend. Stop messing around and go find him.
4. He doesn’t like you that much if he doesn’t want to have sex with you
If a man likes a woman, he always wants to touch her.
Dear ladies, you have met and will meet a great many men. I hate to tell you this, but some of these men will simply decide that you are not their type. But the truth, simple, cruel, and bitter, is clear as day: you do not attract him, and he does not want to hurt you.
Excuse: “He’s afraid of getting hurt again .” Is he afraid? Yes, he’s afraid of hurting you. That’s why he hasn’t clarified the situation with your relationship. He loves you as a friend. If he loved you as a woman, he wouldn’t be able to control himself and would have a torrid affair with you.
Excuse: “I drive him so crazy that he shows no interest .” Sure, many people have suffered in the past and are now afraid of serious relationships. But guess what? If a man likes you, nothing will stop him from getting you, not even the fear of serious relationships. If he has big problems with this, he may go to some pointless therapy, but he will never keep you in the dark.
Excuse: “But it’s so cool .” It used to be that a woman refused to have sex when she wanted to gain power over a man. It seems that the stronger sex has learned to use this, too. If a guy is happily eating cookies and watching a movie while lying on the couch with you, then you just aren’t attractive to him.
Excuse: “He has a lot of excuses for everything .” You can believe his excuses if you want, but ask yourself a few questions first. Are you happy with this relationship? The most important thing is, do you want to feel this way, perhaps for the rest of your life? Sex is also one of the greatest pleasures a person can experience.
Remember:
- People talk about who they are all the time. If a man tells you that monogamy is not for him, there is no reason not to believe him.
- Communication is great. But if communication is combined with sex, it is even better. Call a spade a spade, or more precisely, call a friend a friend. And find yourself a friend who cannot resist touching you.
- If you have low self-esteem, you will have to spend more time raising it than looking for a new boyfriend.
5. He doesn’t like you that much if he’s sleeping with another woman.
There is no truly compelling excuse for cheating.
Excuse: “He has no excuse, and he knows it .” Cheating is bad. Not being able to explain why you cheated on someone is even worse. If one red flag isn’t enough, how about two? Don’t date men who don’t know why they did what they did.
Excuse: “But I’ve gained weight .” I’m pretty sure you need to lose 200 pounds of your worthless boyfriend, not the 20 pounds he’s talking about. Get rid of this loser right now, or I’ll come to your house and throw him out.
Excuse: “He needs more sex than I do .” There is no excuse for him cheating on you. Period. There are plenty of ways to solve this fairly common problem that arises from differences in sexual appetites.
Excuse: “But at least he knew her .” Let me explain it another way: It doesn’t matter whether he loves you or not. He made it clear to you how he felt about your affair. He acted on his feelings and arranged things so that he could be alone with another woman, kiss her, take her clothes off, and do all the other things that normally happen when two adults have sex.
Remember:
- There is no excuse for cheating. Let me repeat: There is no excuse for cheating. Now say it yourself: There is no excuse for cheating.
- The only thing you are responsible for in another person’s moral failure is your feelings.
- Cheating is cheating. It doesn’t matter who he cheated on you with or how many times it happened.
- Cheaters are never happy. (Because they are all scoundrels.)
- An unfaithful man is cheating on himself first and foremost since he cannot build a normal relationship with you.
6. He doesn’t like you that much if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk.
If he likes you, he will be eager to see you when his brain is not clouded by alcohol fumes.
Excuse: “But I like him when he’s drunk .” If he’s sitting at a bar and he’s drunk and says something like, “Baby, you’re so pretty!” and he hugs you a little tighter than he should, then it’s time to learn something: You can’t believe everything a man says when he’s drunk. Is that the type of guy you want?
Excuse: “At least he drinks soft drinks .” Don’t be fooled. A guy who isn’t falling over and peeing his pants from drinking shouldn’t get away with quietly turning off his brain in a different, easier way every time you’re together.
Remember:
- His words mean nothing if he says them drunk. “I love you” or something similar said under the influence of any drink stronger than grape juice, has no force in court or real life.
- Drinking alcohol and using drugs is not the path to a person’s deepest feelings.
- You deserve a man who doesn’t need to bulk up to spend time with you.
7. He doesn’t like you that much if he doesn’t want to marry you.
Every one of your ex-men who told you he didn’t want to get married didn’t believe in marriage, or had doubts about marriage, will eventually tie the knot. Just not with you.
Remember:
- “Doesn’t want to get married” and “Doesn’t want to marry me” are two different things. Make sure you’ve correctly identified which category your chosen one belongs to.
- If you have conflicting views on marriage, there will likely be other issues that will lead to disagreements.
- If nothing changes in your relationship, then what are you waiting for?
- Somewhere on earth, there is a man who wants to marry you.
8. He doesn’t like you that much if he dumped you
Excuse: “He needs me .” Don’t be satisfied with the fact that he’s bored without you. He should be. You’re so unique. And yet, he’s still the same person who dumped you.
Justification: “It’s much easier after such a decision.” There is one thing a young man will never do if he can’t imagine his life without you: he will never leave you.
Excuse: “But everyone does it .” Oh yeah, post-breakup sex is not a bad thing at all, because it’s great to sleep with someone you know. And it’s also great to sleep with someone you have strong feelings for.
Excuse: “But then he wants to come back .” Unfortunately, after you break up, your boyfriend starts looking for something better. And when he can’t, he gets lonely and goes “home.” It’s not like he likes you very much. He just really doesn’t like being alone.
Excuse: “I refuse to accept the fact that he dumped me .” I’m sorry he dumped you. Trying to get him back over and over again makes your ex think, “What the hell did I see in that crazy bitch?” Remember one simple piece of advice, ladies: Always be on top of things. Never go crazy.
Remember:
- You won’t be able to prevent a breakup by talking. Discussions won’t help here. Breaking up is a final decision and cannot be appealed.
- Having sex after a breakup doesn’t mean you’re back together.
- You don’t need to remind him how amazing you are.
- He can take care of his cat himself.
- Somewhere a young man is waiting for you who will be simply happy that you did not get back together with your nasty ex-boyfriend.
9. He doesn’t like you that much if he just disappears.
Well, it’s pretty clear here. He’s made it clear that you’re so not his type that he doesn’t even bother to leave you any word about himself.
Excuse: “Maybe he died .” There is nothing worse than not getting a response from your crush. The only reason you should write to him again is to get a clear rejection, this time in verbal form. Have you forgotten? You are too busy with your admirers and you do not have time for such nonsense.
Excuse: “So, does that mean I can’t even have one last row with him?” At first, you might feel like you’ll feel better if you call him and have a row. You might feel like you’ve let him get away with it. But trust me, nothing you tell him will be a revelation to him. And you have enough to do with your time.
Excuse: “But I just want an answer .” Do you deserve to know what happened? Absolutely. I can tell you what happened: You were dating a terrible person.
Remember:
- He may be in the hospital suffering from amnesia, but more likely he’s just not that into you.
- The absence of an answer is his answer to you.
- Don’t give him a chance to reject you again.
- Let his mother make scandals for him. You are too busy for that.
- There is no mystery here: he simply left your life, and he was unworthy of you.
10. He doesn’t like you that much if he’s married (this also includes all the other, most incredible reasons)
If you can’t love each other freely and openly, then it’s not true love.
Remember:
- He is married.
- If he’s not yours entirely, then he’s hers.
- There are so many cool and gentle single men in the world. Try to meet one of them.
- You are not so easy to forget. Let him find you himself when he is ready for a new relationship.
11. He doesn’t like you that much if he acts like a selfish egotist, a braggart, or just a big jerk.
If he loves you, he will do everything he can to make you happy.
Excuse: “But he wants to improve .” People in love try to treat each other well and even enjoy being affectionate and caring towards their loved ones. If your partner is really bad at this, you end up reaping the same results as in the situation called “He doesn’t like you that much.”
Excuse: “But that’s just the way he was raised .” He doesn’t have to be crazy about your CD collection. He doesn’t have to like all of your shoes. But any man who is sensible and wholesome should make an effort to like your friends and family.
Excuse: “But he will change .” A short temper is not a temporary problem. People who yell at others simply cannot control themselves and need mental health help. People who yell at others believe they have a right to do so.
Excuse: “It’s only what happens between us in private that matters .” Why be with someone who needs to put you down to feel superior? Especially in front of their friends! And why should you care if they treat you better when you’re alone?
Excuse: “But he’s just trying to help .” It’s really hard to believe that you deserve real love when someone is trying so hard to convince you that you don’t deserve anything in life. But as far as I can tell, no amount of persuasion to break up with him is working on you anyway. So first, just realize that you’re too good for this kind of relationship.
Remember:
- There is no point in making your already difficult life more difficult by sharing it with someone who causes you a lot of trouble.
- You deserve a man who will treat you right in any situation. (Don’t forget that you should treat him right too.)
- Idiots belong in the circus, not in your apartment.
- By getting rid of useless people, you will have a lot of free time that you can spend on what gives you pleasure.
12. So what should you do?
Here you ask: “What if there is no next novel at all?” And we answer: “Send these terrible thoughts on a long voyage on a ship that will certainly sink because it is destined to crash on the reefs of the Island of Sorrows. And we do not want you on that ship.”
YOUR NEW REQUIREMENTS:
- I won’t date someone who doesn’t ask me out.
- I will not date a man who makes me wait hours for his call.
- I won’t date anyone I’m not sure wants to date.
- I will not date someone who makes me feel sexually unattractive.
- I will not date someone who abuses alcohol or drugs, so it makes me uncomfortable.
- I will not date a person who is afraid to make plans for the future with me.
- I will under no circumstances waste my time on a person who has already rejected me once.
- I will not date a married man.
I will not date a man unless he is truly a kind, sincere, and gentle person. And you will be happy!
