Love Advice: 5 Breakup Mistakes That Are Keeping You From Forgetting Him

You can’t be with him, but you can’t be without him. You broke up with him because he neglected you, cheated on you, or hurt you, maybe even physically. You try to move on without him, but you feel lonely, scared, and lost.
Your feelings and your brain are playing a tug-of-war: your heart believes you are fine, but your brain knows you are terrible.

Still, you want to see him, so you call him and prolong your suffering. Or maybe you want revenge for the way he treated you. Whether
Whether you love him or hate him, when you cling to painful memories of your ex, you hinder your emotional healing.

Here are the 5 worst breakup mistakes that are holding you back from moving on:

 You continue to communicate with your ex

All exes know your weak spots, and if you let them, they will play on them like guitar strings.
Weeks or even months have passed since your last conversation, and suddenly he calls or texts. First, a small conversation: “How are you? How are you home and at work?”

So you agree to meet for coffee—you know, just “to talk.” Then you have dinner with him and drinks. You tell yourself you can handle it, but then you sleep with him (and yes, sex is great), and you’re back in the worst relationship of your life.

Girl, where is your survival instinct and common sense? You know he is not for you. You know he is destroying your self-confidence and your self-esteem and is making you depressed again. And no matter what he promises, you know he will betray you again with his lying words and abusive behavior.

If you want to move on without him, don’t answer his calls and texts; don’t open the door to his unexpected visits, allowing him to slip back into your life.

You think it’s your fault.

After a breakup, we tend to blame ourselves for everything, to see everything bad in ourselves. Of course, self-analysis is useful, but to think that you are completely responsible for your ex’s bad behavior and that you yourself are to blame for his betrayal or infidelity is wrong.

You tell yourself that no one will love you.

When you leave a bad relationship, it is the first step to rebuilding your self-respect and raising your self-esteem. Because it is not you who is unlovable; it is the relationship that is like that. It was this man who made you feel that way, and that is why it ended.

You don’t let go of anger and sadness.

Are you constantly replaying memories from past relationships? Then you will remain a loser.

Your ex dumped you, or you couldn’t stand his behavior anymore. The problem is that you still love him very much. You have a lot of mixed feelings: fear, anger, guilt, and sadness. You know he’s not the one for you, but you still miss him.

Your misplaced feelings of love and devotion prevent you from putting an end to it. Or you constantly think about how to take revenge on him, and this also does not let you go.

Whether it’s painful thoughts about him or a thirst for revenge, it poisons your new happiness and feminine energy, preventing emotional healing.

You are rushing your recovery.

Give yourself time to feel all these emotions, correct your mistakes, and only then try a new relationship. Don’t mask the pain of a breakup with a new person, a job, or total isolation.

It’s better to focus on self-improvement and personal growth. Do sports, read books, eat right, update your wardrobe, attend interesting events, and make new acquaintances.