It is probably one of the most important questions that keep cropping up when it comes to relationships. Does true, great love exist? The person who will captivate us forever and ever and who we can love for our entire lives? We will try to get to the bottom of the matter.
“Forever yours, forever mine, forever ours.” Ludwig van Beethoven not only wrote this to his beloved; we know it above all as the love vow between Carrie and Mr. Big from “S+x and the City.”. What more beautiful words could you possibly find to declare your eternal love? But no matter whether you are happily in a relationship or are single and looking for a partner, at some point the question arises whether true love even exists. And if so, only once?
Believe in great love and everyday reality
That true love does exist is a widespread assumption, especially among those who are newly in love. Logical: The butterflies in your stomach flutter, and your mind goes on a rollercoaster ride, but you always come back to the same goal: him, only him. Rose-tinted glasses make the world a better place, love stronger, and let our minds fall into a kind of high. True love MUST exist if you feel so intoxicated! Or does it?
After a few weeks or months, however, the initial, great infatuation is gone. What remains is, in the best case, a stable, adult love with a strong foundation of trust that continues to grow and deepen over the years. But the struggle against everyday life and, to be honest, against possible feelings for someone else, even if they last for a short time, get in the way of the supposedly perfect relationship and the feeling of having found true love. In the long run, the relationship can suffer so much that at some point it is better to end it. Even if it breaks your heart to have to give up the thought of this true love.
What is the secret of long-term relationships?
If you look at older generations, you notice that they seem to have one thing ahead of us: they know how to maintain love. They seem to have found the great love and a secret to keeping it.
What this is is obvious. They have understood that love is something dynamic. Love never stands still but is, like us, subject to a constant process of change. It must always be redefined to meet new demands and circumstances. And you have to be aware of that. It is never all sunshine and roses; eternal happiness simply does not exist, however nice it might be. If you want to maintain a relationship for the long term, you must always work on the classic basic pillars. This includes, above all, addressing problems and worries openly and being prepared to compromise. Eternal life as a couple requires sacrifices, and that is quite natural. But the rewards can be worth all the effort.
