Men are incapable of relationships? Nonsense! A study by the online dating portal ElitePartner has now found that men are even more interested in a relationship than women. We’ll tell you more.
No woman would have expected this result because men have a reputation as people who shy away from responsibility and are unwilling to commit. But more men than women want a relationship and are interested in a partnership and family. At least that’s what one survey found. Men also need a relationship to be happy
Even though sexual experience and variety play a greater role for men than for women, 43 percent of those under 30 strive for a happy relationship or a family. Men in a relationship are generally more satisfied with their lives; a full 70 percent of the men surveyed said that a happy relationship has a positive effect on their life satisfaction. For this reason, single men of all ages are much more likely to want a new relationship than women. For single women, the willingness to enter into a new relationship drops drastically from the age of 40, while for men it only drops from the age of 50.
Men perceive being single as a weakness.
Since men long for a steady relationship, they are also more active in their search for a woman than women are in their search for a man: 34 percent of men said they have at least one date per month. One in eleven even dates several times a week. Women, on the other hand, are not as active in their search for a partner: only just under a quarter meet a man once a month or more often.
But why are men more interested in a relationship? “Men are less able to reconcile being single in midlife with their self-image and tend to see it as a weakness. They also suffer more from loneliness than women, who have a higher level of single competence in their forties. This means that women are more often involved in close friendships and feel satisfied in their professional and socially established position, even independently of a partner,” explains psychologist Lisa Fischbach to ElitePartner.
Men and fear of commitment
So are men incapable of commitment? Not really, the qualified psychologist continues: “The myth of widespread male fear of commitment plays into women’s hands as a defensive claim. They thereby unconsciously distance themselves from their responsibility for the failure of a relationship attempt.” Many women therefore use men’s fear of commitment as an excuse for the fact that men just don’t want to commit to them.
When strong feelings are involved, men take action and their willingness to commit is just as pronounced as women’s. They even use fear of commitment “as an excuse not to hurt the woman if they reject her. A man commits himself when he falls in love; if not, then that’s fine.”
